J.L.’S STORY: “I Believed the Lies of Pornography and It Influenced Me to Be Abusive In My Relationships”
Check out J.L.’s story! A child sex abuse survivor whose pornography use negatively affected her relationships. Also, please don’t forget to SHARE AND COMMENT! We will pass on a link to this post to J.L. so she can read your feedback. Thanks!
I BELIEVED THE LIES OF PORNOGRAPHY AND IT INFLUENCED ME TO BE ABUSIVE IN MY RELATIONSHIPS
J.L. (female, 19, U.S., Found AntiPornography.org through YouTube)
I’m not the usual statistic known to watch pornography. I am a homosexual nineteen year old female who also enjoys engaging in consensual sensual activities. But I can strongly agree that today you’ve made a big difference in my life as to why pornography is totally unethical.
I do see myself becoming more physically and psychologically abrasive to the ones I care about after viewing pornography; I would impulsively hit, slap, or poke my partner to the point of annoyance, or I would make insults to her on weight issues. I would ask myself, “Does she really enjoy that?” while watching the grimaces and clenched eyes, (most commonly seen in heterosexual pornography), when I believe that sexual gratification is more expressive vocally as well.
Thank you so much for the clarification regarding the definitions of eroticism and pornography. You’ve really opened my eyes. I do not take pleasure in anyone’s humiliation, therefore I will stop endorsing and viewing pornography.
On a very personal note, only once as a preschooler was I sexually abused by a stranger; after the occurrence I gained a very different perspective on sex at a young age; but differently I did not see sex as appropriate until someone becomes of consenting age. I did also believe at one point that pornography was “normal” since I assumed the girls who partook in making the films enjoyed it. Ideally people do things they love for money.
Psychologically, I was very repressive about being objectified as something sexual; I’m not in total denial of myself of anything sexual, I am passionate and have natural urges as a human. However it took me many years before I finally allowed my emotions to gather and understand that I was violated as any of the girls who partake in pornography or prostitution, the only difference is that I wasn’t given monetary compensation.
People who obtain gratification from pornography, prostitution, or engaging in a sexual act without permission should considered getting their heads checked.
Thanks again for personally approaching me for my comment, and a thousand more for creating your website and making a big difference!
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