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Sunday, May 26, 2013

AARON’S STORY: “Learning the Truth About the Harms of Pornography Set Me Free from My Addiction”

READ Aaron’s story of how pornography addiction ruined his marriage and how learning the TRUTH about porn set him free. Also please don’t forget to LIKE, SHARE AND COMMENT! We will pass on a link to this post to Aaron so he can read your comments.

LEARNING THE TRUTH ABOUT THE HARMS OF PORNOGRAPHY SET ME FREE FROM MY ADDICTION

– By Aaron (41, trucker, U.S.)

Thanks for all you’re doing to fight off the porn industry. It’s absolutely amazing how blind we can be to the effects of pornography until our lives become damaged. I allowed myself to continue drifting into my porn addiction up until recently. I always figured I’d eventually “grow out” of it. I would set New Year’s resolutions year after year, thinking I could just indulge until that date and stop for good. I have been living a double life for over 20 years.

I married, got divorced, and have three girls. Ironically my wife got me started into my pornography addiction. For my 20th Birthday she bought me a one-year subscription to Playboy. She thought if I read the magazine it would help our sex life. But all it did was make me resent my wife for not looking like the Playboy models. Our sex life was boring and I eventually found more pleasure in masturbating to the Playboy photos. I found pornography to be a convenience because it was all about my own satisfaction rather than having to worry about pleasing my wife. We divorced after eight years of marriage because we were both just bored with each other.

So I started buying more hardcore magazines. Playboy wouldn’t do it for me any more. I remained hooked because of the lie that there will always be something better around the corner. Just check out one more website or just check out this one last porn star. There was always something new to be curious about.

I have always known that pornography is wrong. But my problem has been not having an understanding of WHY it is wrong. Somewhere in my mind I could reason that since I’m not the one committing the acts on the set nor did I set the stage or hire the performers, somehow it was okay. My addiction progressed to me hiring prostitutes and having sex in oriental spas. I just craved sex any way I could get it.

The one thing that broke this cycle was when I began surfing through anti-porn sites, starting with your AntiPornographyBlog channel on YouTube that featured Sasha Grey’s interview with Tyra Banks. Discovering what it’s really like to be a porn star got me to the point where I don’t care to re-enact their experience anymore.

Part of my addiction was my envy of porn stars. I envied them because I thought they were really living it up, making all kinds of money while enjoying nonstop sex. By visiting anti-porn sites I could see that they actually live a miserable life. I didn’t know that so many of them have died of suicide, overdoses, murder, and AIDS. I also didn’t realize how many are abused and underpaid.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized it was affecting my personal life as well. Every time I’d come home to my family I couldn’t wait to get back on the road so I could indulge in porn again. I have also been lying about my finances because I couldn’t admit I was spending money on my addiction.

So here I am, taking it one day at a time. I don’t view pornography anymore. To occupy my time I read through anti-porn sites and I find more time to exercise. I could go to a porn site right now, but I choose not to. Again, thanks for helping me open my eyes to the truth about pornography.

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Books about the harms of pornography

Pornified: How Pornography is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships and Our Families, by Pamela Paul. (Buy it here at Amazon.com.)
(Note: The author has stated that she regrets the errors on pg. 259 in the sentence beginning with “Meanwhile, women on the Left…”. The sentence and the points made in it are inaccurate but corrections were not able to be made for the paperback edition.)

Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture, by Ariel Levy. (Buy it here at Amazon.com.)

Pornography: Driving the Demand in International Sex Trafficking, by Captive Daughters Media. (Buy it here at Amazon.com, or at Xlibris here. Table of contents here. Full text of Introduction by David Guinn here.)

The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help, by Jackson Katz. (Buy it here at Amazon.com)

Getting Off: Pornography and the End of Masculinity, by Robert Jensen. (Buy it here at Amazon.com.)

Not for Sale: Feminists Resisting Prostitution and Pornography, edited by Rebecca Whisnant and Christine Stark. (Buy it at Amazon.com here or at Spinifex press here.)

How to Make Love Like A Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale, by Jenna Jameson. (Buy it here at Amazon.com: ) It includes much valuable information about the pornography industry that makes it clear how harmful it is.

Against Pornography: The Evidence of Harm, by Diana Russell (Buy it at Amazon.com here or at Diana Russell's website here. Book info here.)

Dangerous Relationships: Pornography, Misogyny and Rape, by Diana Russell. (Buy it at Amazon.com here, or at Diana Russell's website here. Book info here.)

Pornography: The Production and Consumption of Inequality, by Gail Dines, Robert Jensen, and Ann Russo. (Buy it at Amazon.com here.)

Life and Death: Unapologetic Writings on the Continuing War Against Women, by Andrea Dworkin. (Buy it at Amazon.com here.)

"Making Violence Sexy: Feminist Views on Pornography", edited by Diana Russell. (Buy it at Amazon.com here or at Diana Russell's website here. Book info here.)

"Pornography in America: A Reference Handbook", by Joseph W. Slade. Buy it at Amazon.com here.

Traci Lords On the Oprah Show:

Traci grew up in an abusive home and was raped at the age of 10 by a neighborhood boy. Her career in the sex industry began when she ran away from home at age 15. She obtained a fake I.D. "mainly to get a job…as a waitress, just some sort of employment," Traci says. "I was really desperate."
When she answered an ad for a figure model in a local newspaper, she was quickly swept up into the porn industry. Nude modeling led to a centerfold in Penthouse, which quickly led to hard-core pornography.
"I had stars in my eyes," she recalls. "And I thought, 'Okay…maybe this is a way of having the attention and having everybody like me."
Battling her "self-loathing," Traci says turning to the porn industry was her way of getting attention.
"It wasn't about sex… it was about numbing out, finding a place to put that anger. I was very aggressive…it was vengeance… it was about attention."

Oprah Show: A Porn Star Gone Straight: The Traci Lords Story.

Family and Children Oriented Anti-Porn Internet Resources:

WhatAParentCanDo.com

CP80.org
(Internet Channel Initiative)

Enough is Enough

ProtectKids.com

Morality in Media

National Law Center

Victims of Pornography

Legal Information Regarding Pornography

Canadians Against Sexual Exploitation

United States Department of Justice Section on Pornography

Citizens Against Pornography

Maryland Coalition Against Pornography

Anti-Porn Network

The Social Costs of Pornography (2008 Princeton University project. 10 papers by different professionals. See right sidebar.)

Why the Government Should Care About Pornography. (2005 U.S. Senate Hearing) Please click on the following links of names for testimony by each individual: Pamela Paul, (author of "Pornified"),
Ms. Leslie Harris, (Executive Director Center for Democracy and Technology), Mr. Rodney Smolla, (Dean, University of Richmond School of Law), Richard Whidden, (Executive Director and Senior Council National Law Center for Children and Families), and Senator Orrin Hatch.

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