Former Porn Star Jersey Jaxin on Why She Quit Porn and How Abusive the Industry Is Towards Women
Please click on the triangle "play" icon in the middle of the picture below to hear why Jersey very recently quit porn, how harmful to one's health the porn industry can be, and how dehumanizing and degrading the industry is.
Part 2:
As you can hear in the interview, another former porn star, Shelley Lubben, is kindly working very hard to help Jersey. Below is an excerpt of what Shelley writes about Jersey on her website. Following that is an excerpt of their interview.
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"I met Jersey Jaxin about two months ago through Myspace and she allowed me to come and spend time with her and listen to her story. She spoke about many things from her sexual abuse from her father to the abuse she went through in the porn.
Much of her life can be summed up in one word: ABUSE.
She made me cry during our meeting quite a bit but especially when I asked her what she did in her off time when she wasn't doing porn and she replied, "I hold my roommate and we just cry".
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That TOTALLY messed me up... Two months later this precious woman calls me and says, "Guess what Shelley, I've left porn for good!"
I want you all to hear and know the truth from the very mouths of the women who make porn. I want you to know that there IS NO FANTASY in porn and that women suffer abuse EVERY SINGLE DAY!
She wants you to know that Jersey Jaxin is now dead and that her real name is Tanya and that it's time for Tanya to be the person she was meant to be. She even cleaned up her myspace to show her fans and all of us that she is serious and is never going back to porn. Please visit her myspace and leave her encouraging comments... This will... give her strength to rebuild her life. I am so thankful for all of you... Just look at how well Sierra Sinn and Becca Brat are doing and YOU have something to do with that!
I want to give Tanya some relief from the many years of suffering she has endured. She has only known pain and abuse since she was a little girl and now I want all of us to reach out to her. She is moving to another state where there are mainly Super Walmarts. If you would like to help Tanya as she begins her new life please send Walmart cards to my PMB Box and I will forward everything I receive to her as soon as I receive them from you.
Let's keep helping the porn stars rebuild their lives! YOU are making a HUGE difference in the lives of women by your giving.
Tanya already sends a BIG THANK YOU to us for your support and love as she courageously rebuilds her new life.
You can send the Walmart cards here to my post mail box at:
Shelley Lubben
PMB Box 33
6077 Coffee Rd 4
Bakersfield, Calif. 93308
Or if you'd like to help in some other way please visit my web site here.
Thank you SO MUCH for caring about the porn stars! Love, Shelley"
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Here's a partial transcript of Shelley's talk with Jersey.
Shelley: "I hear you left porn. What's going on?"
Jersey: "I'm just tired of the industry. The way that they treat as though we are just a piece of meat. That we don't have a mind and our body is everybody's and we have no soul."
Shelley: "Did something happen that made you say, 'That's it! I'm done.'"
Jersey: "Someone I thought was my friend chose money over me and tried to get my fiance to leave me by offering him double pay. I've completely had it. I can't deal with it anymore... I want everything in my relationship to be only me and him."
Shelley: "You told me some pretty scary things about the porn industry."
Jersey: "Guys punching you in the face. You have semen... Twenty or thirty guys all over your face, in your eyes. You get ripped. Your insides can come out of you. It's never ending. Your viewed as an object not as a human with a spirit. People don't care. People do drugs because they can't deal with the way they're being treated."
Shelley: "What percentage of porn people use drugs?"
Jersey: "Seventy five percent and rising. Have to numb themselves... There are specific doctors in this industry if you go in for a common cold, they'll give you vicodin, viagra, anything you want because all they care about is money. You are a number. You're bruised. You have black eyes. You're ripped. You're torn. You have your insides coming out of you. It's not pretty and foofoo on set. You get hurt."
"The main thing going around now is crystal meth, cocaine and heroin. ...You have to numb yourself to go on set. The more you work, the more you have to numb yourself. The more you become addicted, the more your personal life is nothing but drugs... Your whole life becomes nothing but porn."
"I was a drinker. I drank a lot. Vodka was my drug. Vodka was my numbing toy. Before sets, after sets, and if it was a set where people didn't care, they'd have it there waiting."
Shelley: "Do pornographers provide drugs?"
Jersey: "Some of them do. Some of them do it in front of you. I used to have a problem with cocaine that I overcame. It's hard when they're putting it in front of you and saying, 'Do this.'"
Shelley: "Talk about some of the degradation the women have to go through."
Jersey: "You may see a 45-minute set that took us 13 hours. ...We're ripped, we're tired, we're sored, we're bleeding, we're cut up, we have dried semen all over our faces from numerous guys and we can't wash it off because they want to take pictures. You have this stuff all over you and they're telling you, 'Hold it!'"
"You can say anything you want [stop or pain etc] and they don't listen. There's the ultimate thing where you squeeze their leg to ease up and most of them don't care. They have another scene to go to. It's all about the money. They've forgotten who they are and they don't care who they're hurting."
"I'm on the road right now heading to a different life. I'm going to try to make it as a normal person because I'm done."
"You have no soul in the porn industry."
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For more information please see:
Shelley Lubben's well documented List of Dead Porn Stars and How They Died.
The Adult Industry Medical Foundation publication "Types of Porn and Their Occupational Safety Risks".
The excellent article "The Adult Film Industry: Time to Regulate?", by Corita Grudzen and Peter Kerndt. A PubMedCentral/U.S. National Institutes of Health publication.
Corita Grudzen is a Robert Wood Johnson Clinical Scholar at the University of California, Los Angeles, Los Angeles, California, United States of America. Peter Kerndt is the Director of the Sexually Transmitted Disease Program in the Los Angeles County Department of Public Health, Los Angeles, California, United States of America.
3 comments:
This industry is also very abusive to men and turns them into objects and indoctrinates them into being predators themselves. Yes, women are treated like animals and its far more obvious to see the abuse. I find it appalling that most of the internet anti-porn activism is geared to women. It is my opinion, that the solution to this problem would be far more effective by deprograming the men via de-indoctrination. For the most part the anti-porn activism is all about exposing the abusive men- which is little more than a well-deserved angst against male predators.
The biggest lie is that humans are inclined to evil- especially men. This is completely untrue which is why the problem is getting exponentially worse and rarely better.
Human beings by nature are loving and curious creatures whereby it is easy to see that naivety via simple "wonder (curiosity)" is easily exploited by a cruel and selfish being on the lookout for unsuspecting prey. Those preyed upon are almost immediately labeled "victims" and are the ones expected to "toughen up" which is the endless psychotic circle I have described above. Victims are seen as helpless and stupid or not very bright people- when in truth- they are merely trusting, loving beings whom have been led astray intentionally by indoctrinated people under the control of subhuman beings who wish to be in complete control of us all.
Banning pornography completely is the perfect solution, however all those people in that industry will need to be re-educated and fit with skills to reincorporate them back into society to make an honest living. The fundamental problem is nudity in art (say- Michael Angelo's Sistine Chapel) which is a huge social issue keeping this nasty fire burning bright. I believe all nudity in art is pornographic and it was commissioned and designed for that purpose which is why we are where we are with this issue and the likelihood it will always be unresolved. One of the points of this diatribe is past master artists often painted mens genitalia as very small and many women would point and giggle emasculating their husbands (publicly and privately) which naturally led to pornography (and actual behavior) which embodied the opposite. Men took revenge and assumed machismo which for centuries was arousal for women. I am not saying women brought this on themselves- I am saying it has ALWAYS BEEN A TWO-WAY STREET. Physically men could dominate women, while women have always been psychologically superior and this is the source of the endless vicious circle of manipulation and proof that more wars have been started over women than God and man has been blamed. That said, if you take a human man and a human woman and leave them alone with no influences whatsoever- come back say ten years later- you will find a happy, supportive, productive and functional family. However if you add influence to this loving mix- dysfunction, disassociation, fear and anger quickly transmogrifies them into a dysfunctional unit ready to spread a very communicable disease with a pandemic agent known as "blame" which transforms into "shame" making it impossible to cure- then people turn to the church which has also been throughly corrupted- or they turn to government which is corrupted far worse and guided by the very same corrupt religions. The vicious cycle continues in the unstoppable destructive way it has in its always successful wrecking of every previous civilization- which is PROOF that nearly every person will eventually rule out, because evolution clearly dictates progress not perfection. A very cunning lie which utilized to its fullest destruction via (a flawless current example) 12-step programs- a group think cult mind-control recipe that never delivers freedom but rather returns the seeker back into the "matrix".
The solution is to ban pornography- the problem is prohibition has always inspired "fascination" thereby creating a bigger problem to fix.
While ideally anti-porn activism seems a cure but what I see is another "divide and conquer" device disguised as "Love the addict- hate the addiction behavior".
These previous porn stars coming out against the business or trying to legitimize it by creating an atmosphere of respect (such as Ms. Jamison attempting to change the consenting age to 21) are ridiculous. They are sending addicts back to court and back to church- hence the never-ending cycle of disrespect and abuse. Its all smoke and mirrors and window dressing!
Suggesting that a relationship should be ended because of porn addiction is cruel beyond measure when clearly an addict is more in need of love and likely will not get it because of the prison it creates for the one truly deserving of a loving healthy relationship. Classic and cunningly clever bullshit at its best.
The reminder here is that love is infinitely patient and a reward in and of itself- it may take a lifetime for an addict to be able to receive the love he/she is truly deserving of- they may even die without ever being able to receive it and although it may seem that the "victim" in the relationship has been short-changed-the reality is: love is a selfless spiritual and boundless fabric of the soul of a human being- which is why it is such a tremendous gift from the Creator of all life and the truth of this can only be blurred by a predator- never destroyed. The REAL predators true motivation is jealousy because they were created without this spiritual gift and this will be revealed very soon. Until then- try to keep anti-crap to a whisper rather than a scream.
I walked away from porn without any help from anyone and have the full support of loving people around me who are amazed at my example the truth of which- I am no different than any other soul-filled human being.
Live by example people and then you will really know what love is about or rather: remember what is within each of us and was from the moment of our conception!
In a very BUSY and DISTRACTING world it is often amazing what we each can forget.
Oh I see so women pointed and giggled over a hundred years ago, and now "understandably" they are urinated on, raped, beaten, smothered, choked, defecated upon, degraded, made to vomit and you call that a two way street.
You know what REALLY pisses me off? The rape rates and beatings of women that go on in this country and EVERY single time women say a word about it there is always ONE person who shows up to "mansplain" that "it is so hard on the men too.
Really? I am terribly sorry but, women are NOT the oppressors here and men are NOT being "abused" knowingly or otherwise. They are perhaps desensitized to the point of doing more and more violent acts and calling them "sexual" Womens sexuality has been usurped by what men want not the other way around.
When men are being made to go through all the things that women in this industry endure and try to survive, many times not succeeding THEN you can say it is a "two way street" or "always has been a two way street" and NOT before.
You would not tell a gay person who was abused or a person of color that racism is a "two way street" when they are beaten due to prejudice. It would be INSULTING. It's insulting to women for you to come here with this argument and yet to not even "realize" how offensive it is.
Do you also explain how rape is a "two way street" to victims? How about incest? Is that a "two way street" too.
The cognitive dissonance in your so called argument is not only astounding it is sexist and wrong and harmful.
^ Go Anonymous :D
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